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Bj\u00f6rn mailade mig den h\u00e4r artikeln f\u00f6r ett tag sen:\u00a0Debatt: Tvinga inte barnen att kramas s\u00e5 undviker vi #metoo i framtiden<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Inte f\u00f6r att han tycker att vi tvingar v\u00e5ra barn att kramas, men f\u00f6r att han inte hade formulerat det och tyckte det var intressant.<\/p>\n

Att l\u00e4ra barn om gr\u00e4nser<\/h2>\n

Hon har m\u00e5nga bra punkter i sin text (l\u00e4s den!<\/a>), h\u00e4r nedan f\u00f6ljer n\u00e5gra utdrag. Jag tror definitivt inte att det h\u00e4r \u00e4r l\u00f6sningen f\u00f6r att slippa #metoo i framtiden, f\u00f6r det \u00e4r mycket mer komplext \u00e4n s\u00e5, men nog \u00e4r det ett steg p\u00e5 v\u00e4gen dit att l\u00e4ra v\u00e5ra barn vikten av deras och andras nej.<\/p>\n

Deras nej som vi missar ibland<\/h3>\n

T\u00e4nk dig att du kittlas, brottas och busar med ett barn som skrattar s\u00e5 hen kiknar. Fantastiskt rolig situation, men om barnet n\u00e5gon g\u00e5ng i denna situation s\u00e4ger nej (och \u00e4ven om barnet skrattar och du vet att hen egentligen vill att du forts\u00e4tter) s\u00e5 sluta direkt. D\u00e5 visar du tydligt att deras NEJ v\u00e4ger tungt.*<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\"\"Kramas!<\/h3>\n

Jag tycker det \u00e4r s\u00e5 sj\u00e4lvklart att man inte ska tvinga barn att krama folk om de inte vill. Kramen \u00e4r en \u00f6mhetsbetygelse, och b\u00f6r s\u00e5 f\u00f6rbli tills barnet sj\u00e4lvt b\u00f6rjar se det som det h\u00e4lsningss\u00e4tt som kramen ocks\u00e5 kan vara, men som alltid finns det situationer som man kanske inte har t\u00e4nkt p\u00e5, som inte \u00e4r lika tydliga, trots att de inneh\u00e5ller samma komponenter som de man antagligen f\u00f6rst kommer att t\u00e4nka p\u00e5.<\/p>\n

En situation jag ofta sett \u00e4r n\u00e4r ett litet barn vill krama ett annat litet barn, men det andra barnet inte vill. D\u00e5 h\u00e4nder det ofta att en vuxen s\u00e4ger n\u00e5got i stil med \u201dDet \u00e4r ingen fara hen vill ju bara kramas\u201d. Och s\u00e5 skrattas det bort f\u00f6r att ungarna \u00e4r ju s\u00e5 s\u00f6ta.*<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Mina barn kramas bara om de sj\u00e4lva vill. Om Simon skriker sitt v\u00e4ltr\u00e4nade ”NEEEJ!!” och dramatiskt kastar sig i soffan n\u00e4r v\u00e5ra g\u00e4ster ska g\u00e5 hem s\u00e5 ja, l\u00e5t honom ligga d\u00e4r d\u00e5.<\/p>\n